three months down, seven to go

So I have officially been in France now for 3 months, that’s a whole 90 something days. I know that everyone always says that time passes faster than we think, and I can fully understand why that would be. Comfort wise I feel like it’s been a lot longer since i have been living this life I am now, but psychologically it feels like it was just yesterday that I was home waiting tables at my family restaurant.

A lot has changed in these 3 months and I’ve learned a lot about who I am as a person, but also a lot about how the Parisians live on a daily basis. I know that i’ve changed, i mean how would if have been possible for me not to. I feel as if it has been for the better, as I see these travel and experiences have made me more independent, more appreciative and a heck of a lot happier in general. Even though I “thought” I was 100% happy being at home in my daily life, i only felt that way because I had yet to experience anything better.

I though that I would lay out some of the current thoughts that are going through my head as I enter my fourth month abroad in Paris.

1. I came here absolutely hating red wine, and now I prefer it over my beloved white. Sorry white wine lovers but there’s just something about a rich bodied red. It could be the difference of how I consume it considering now I see wine as not just another alcohol but an addition to a meal.

2. I have become picky when it comes to baguettes. Not every bakery makes a good fluffy stick of bread let me tell you. If you’re in the city and want to try a good one check out the chain Paul, its cheap and always fresh!

3. I miss my cheap coffees from Tim Hortons. They try here , but they just aren’t the same. Thankfully I’m a lucky girl and got a cup while in New York.

4. Cheese is SO much better here. I hated cheese before I came here and now I can’t stop eating it, especially Comte. I am also becoming an expert of cheese thanks to my knowledgeable 6 year old teacher. Comte is by far the best cheese I’ve had and placed between a fresh baguette is to die for!

5. I’ve found a love for children again. Before coming here I was set on never having children and my tolerance was little to none. so you’re probably thinking why i chose this job then right, well I think that what I’ve already gotten from it is enough reason.

6. My french has gotten immensely better over these past three months and my confidence of having conversations has risen beyond belief. The other night I was actually the translator between a Parisian and an English speaking Australian which was pretty confidence boosting I must say.

7. I have given up on curling, straightening or styling my hair during the weekdays. The Parisians just seem to let their hair go natural, so why wouldn’t i create less work for myself. That and the fact that I also blew my curling iron with their outlet, oops.

8. My relationship with my host family is amazing (knock on wood) and I really enjoy spending time with them as they consider me a daughter figure in their family. It seems as if there is always a need for wine or champagne at the dinner table which I have no complaints with.

9. I miss my kitchen terribly. I’m more frustrated here not being able to bake as much as I used to, mainly because I don’t have access to the ingredients and time in the kitchen as I’m so busy.

10. I need to invest in a pair of rain boots because my umbrella just isn’t cutting it. Oh, and might I mention that this is my second umbrella because my first one broke in the whole “getting pushed by a beggar on the street” incident my first month here.

So after spending three months abroad I’ve definitely had the opportunity to learn lots and experience quite a number of things. I’m slightly embarrassed to say that I have yet to visit a museum here in Paris, but mainly it’s because I have been waiting until the temperature is too cold to be outside.

Hey! You’re not Alone out there!

I don’t know about any of you, but I love meeting new people! That’s actually one of my main reasons I want to travel; to get to meet people from all over the world and hear their unique stories. As you all know I will be going to Au Pair in Paris without personally knowing anyone, let alone the family I will be staying with for the year.

 I never thought that I would be able to connect with so many people before I actually even set foot in the country that I’m going so that part has made the experience a lot more comforting and less frightening.! I feel the same way I did the summer before I left for my first year of university. I was going into a new place , studying a new language ( I went to a french university & studied immersion) in a foreign town without knowing anyone. The difference this time is that I have been able to talk to talk to people before I actually get there making the whole experience completely different, and honestly so much better. 

1. Facebook Groups

This has been the number one place that I have been able to meet other Au pairs that will be living in Paris! I originally joined the Au Pair Network Facebook group which then lead to connecting with other people going to Paris, so then we created our own group just consisting of au pairs that will be there for the 2014-2015 year!

The use of Facebook has been great! It’s fast, and the notifications go right to my phone when other members comment on posts. You can also create events and invite people to them which will be great once I get there! There is an annual Au pair picnic in Paris which I got invited to through Facebook and currently there are over 100 people attending! That’s 1/6 of the total people that live in my hometown here in Nova Scotia! 

It’s also been helpful when I’ve had questions about pretty much anything! I’m able to ask anything and receive answers from someone almost instantaneously. I will ask a question before I got o sleep and then by the time I wake up in the morning it’s been answered, along with multiple new friend requests from people from all over the world. I’ve even found other girls who will going to the same school as I am as well. 

Something that I haven’t liked about using Facebook would be the multiple requests from these “Meet-up exchanges” accounts. I actually added one once because I thought ” oh it will be good to be notified on the events taking place” but NO, it became way too often and half of the events were irrelevant to me. I mean sorry, but I’m not interested in Salsa dancing with old men. 

 2. Couchsurfing

When I first heard of this website I just figured it would come in handy when I needed a place to spend the night but once I actually looked into what it has to offer I was hooked! You can search what events are going on in the area that you will be travelling to! I’m actually going to Maine for a couple days and used this site to connect with people who live there to see if anyone wanted to meet up and also what things I should do while I’m there! I defiantly will be using this site in the future when I plan my backpacking trip next year or even when attending events happening in Paris! 

 3. MeetUp.com

This was the first site that I found when I was searching for Au pairs that would be in Paris! I didn’t really like it at first because you have to write a short biography every time that you want to join a group but all in all, I was still able to connect with others! Something that I do enjoy about this media site is that there are so many different groups in the same area. For instance I’m a member on the Au pairs in Paris, Canadians in Paris, and Girls in Paris Meet up groups allowing me to meet more people and be involved in more activities. 

 4. Blogs & Instagram

When I first started looking into Au pairing I searched the tag “Au pair” on tumblr and found a lot of sites but they were very broad and the locations would range from all over the world. It was helpful just for general information about Au pairing in general, but it was difficult to find people in Paris specifically. I also use My WordPress feed to keep up to date on posts from blogs that I have found throughout my searches! Using Instagram I was able to find users but it took a lot of searching ! I actually came across quite a few users that I had already met form another social media website.

I’m sure that there are many other ways to connect with other travelers on the web but these have been the ones that I have found useful!

All in all I’m extremely happy to be able to have met so many fellow travelers before even arriving in France! It makes the whole situation a lot less frightening knowing that I will have at least friends there once I arrive and I won’t be alone. I’m really excited to meet everyone that I have already had a chance to talk to and look forward to meeting more people once I get there!

How to go a shopping vacation without buying anything

Well folks, the long crazy process of becoming an au pair has finally come to an end. My visa has arrived back in my arms! Thankfully I didn’t have to schedule an appointment with the consulate like many other au pairs have had to do, so I sent my documents last Thursday and here it is the following Friday and it’s back here in Nova Scotia from Montreal. It’s crazy how fast they completed it considering how much trouble i have had with them in terms of customer service. 

So now there’s nothing left for me to do here but wait oh and the lovely process of packing a year’s worth of things I need into two small bags; no biggie. 

My family is planning a trip to Maine a couple weeks before I leave and obviously shopping in Maine means lot’s of outlets…. I LOVE the shopping down there, and unfortunately I’, not going to be able to buy anything because my bags are already stuffed as it is. So the question becomes, how will I still enjoy my vacation when my siblings are all able to indulge in what they want and I cant? 

1. I have been in charge of mapping our route of where to go and what to do so my main focus has been on planning non-shopping related activities. This includes a must stop to Old Orchard Beach for a day in the sun and a trip to the amusement park of course.

We do have a day planned to shop at the kittery outlets which we haven’t gone to before, and this is going to be hard for me especially with a Lululemon outlet.. kill me now! I am obsessed with this brand, and it’s going to be tough, but i’m praying they won’t have anything I like or in my size! 

One thing I will not feel guilty about buying at Lululemon will be wunder under leggings in black. These are the perfect travel pant and since I already own 3 similar pairs I know that I will wear them! 

2. Make a list of the things you actually could use and may need. For instance I know that I need to get a pair of new pj’s and a couple pairs of underwear to take with me so I will focus on finding my favorites of those items. I also need a few smaller items like locks, a water bottle, a journal, etc.. 

3. I’m a huge foodie so I have been researching restaurants and cafes that I want to check out. By knowing what is there I’m looking forward to checking them out as opposed to shopping and buying clothes I don’t need. 

The Holey Donut is one of the places on my list of must-eats in Portland! Their donuts are made with maine potatos and are apparently to die for, so i’m going to have to check it out for myself! 

4. Leave your extra money at home! I will only be taking my debit card with me and no cash or visa eliminating the urge to splurge!

5. Try and enjoy spending time with the people you are with and plan things that you can enjoy together without spending money. I know that my sister will be looking for back to school clothes so I will be able to help her find clothes without having to buy anything myself.